It seems like men are happy to look at a Black woman but won’t initiate flirting.
Stephanie got more slightly better looking matches than I did.
She also never ran into an issue where a match’s profile specifically excluded her race from the ethnicity preferences, in comparison to me where I’d often see Bllack women specifically excluded from ethnicity preferences.
When comparing both online dating experiences, the most curious thing that came out of it for me was that even though my number of per week profile views beat out Stephanie’s, this did not translate into more interactions.
(Crown), confirmed in hard facts what many heterosexual, single Black women already suspected about the online dating game: the odds are stacked, and not in our favor.
On the Ok Trends blog, Rudder reports, “82% of non-Black men on Ok Cupid show some bias against Black women.” Rudder goes on to say in his book that this means, “being Black basically costs you about three-quarters of a star [out of five] in your rating, even if you’re at the top.” Rudder’s findings certainly back the lackluster experience that I’ve endured on online dating sites, but even despite the cold hard data, I couldn’t help but wonder if other races of women really get more love.
So what better way to find out than to Meet Online Stephanie I created Online Stephanie to see if the grass is greener on the other side of the racial divide.
Stephanie is an unassuming looking, moderately attractive white woman with dark brown hair and a warm smile.
Her personality and hobbies are exactly identical to mine: she listens to Beyoncé, practices yoga and is a self-described health enthusiast.
She’s looking for the same type of guy as me: at least 5’9”, athletic build, college educated with no kids.
Here’s how Stephanie fared in one week compared to me.
Stephanie’s in-mail messages were generally crafted better.