From Him: So about this whole initiation thing: Yes, I do agree that men should usually be the one to initiate something with a girl or make the first move if he likes her.
Lastly, when in a situation where things have been brewing for a while yet there has been no talk of 'what’s next’, ladies, you may have to put your foot down and give an ultimatum, lest you fall into the 'friends with benefits category’.
Check out this article that speaks to this situation:
Ultimately, while I do believe that the guy should be the one to 'define the relationship’, that doesn’t mean, the the girl can’t get involved in getting something started!
Hello readers, I know its been such a lonnggg time! :) Just want to take this time out to officially congratulate my fellow co-writer ‘Her’ on her engagement! So, my upcoming thoughts are merely one of those many varying opinions. Some say, it’s the responsibility of the man to initiate if there is interest involved.
She doesn’t know i am writing this, make sure to leave a comment and show her some love. First things first, everyone and anyone is CAPABLE of cheating! Therefore, cheating is essentially a conscious choice. Others say, it doesn’t matter who makes the first move. I am fundamentally what many would call 'old-fashioned.’ However, I like to say that I do add a bit of 'new-generation flavor’ to my theory on the initiation scenario.
Hopefully she can bring the married perspective into some of our disconnects real soon! Now, often times, it seems unconscious because we allow ourselves to slowly get pulled into ‘seemingly little’ harmful and compromising situations that develop over time. Personally, I believe that NO ONE likes rejection, guy or girl.
These are questions that people will forever have varying opinions about. Perhaps your question will end up as our next topic :-) From Her: “Don’t call him first…”, “If he really likes you, he will make a move..”, “girl, it’s 2011, you gotta go get what you want…” These are all statements that many of us females have heard at one point or the other of our lives concerning whether or not to ‘make a move’ with a guy.
A conversation here, a gesture there, then all of a sudden, BOOM…..cheating has been accomplished. This is one of those few times where we agree on something. Boredom eventually leads to dissatisfaction if not addressed. At the end of the day, who knows why an individual cheats. We live in a society where marriage is prized and highly esteemed. But, someone has to do something in order for something to happen.
I personally believe that in marriages in particular, people cheat as a result of two common things: 1. Both of the reasons she stated are very valid and common reasons why people cheat in general. People get complacent with each other and stop doing the things they used to do or don't try new things. Someone once said, ‘maybe it’s just to feel coveted’. We decided to switch things up a bit for this post! Various cultures, religions, and the like place various levels of importance on the institution of marriage. My 'old-fashioned’ beliefs lie in the notion that when a guy REALLY wants a girl, he will do WHATEVER it takes to get her (even if he has to enlist help).