He's went on dates but never had a serious or long term relationship. I can tell he like my company but scared i might reject him because of his speech impairment and CP. The same feelings and emotions, misgivings fears and doubts that are within human nature can be compounded and magnified in a person with a lifelong disability diagnosis.
I really like talking to him.i would like to get to know him more better. The desire to bond with another in a meaningful and fulfilling relationship is borne in us all.
Family and friends told me they could never date a person with CP. However, keep in mind---the same need for a nurturing, loving companionship is universal in us all.
The idea is to establish your OWN intimacy based on what you both are willing to do and what can be done to the satisfaction and fulfillment of both partners. This was a difficult issue to come to terms with and re-write the script for in my relationship with my husband--after I had been married for 20 years previously.
old man with mild CP(speech impairment and spastic) on the internet. old writer doing character research(Not CP Related). Intimacy issues--now there is a topic that is rearly appropriately broached when it comes to sex and disability. Because of conditioning in former relationships with previous ablebodied partners comes into play here---most of that has to be unlearned and relearned depending on physical limitations.
Establishing a nurturing partnership is where it's at in any relationship.
Especially when one has had failed relationships because of disability.
I let him know i'm not like the other woman he's dealt with. I don't know where this relationship going but i would like to try and see. Yeah I see that now..wasn't thinking when I posted our websites.anxious to share and encourage you...thanks for responding.
He thinks i'm like the other females he's dealt with. I don't see that much information on spasticity and sex. I hope i get a chance to meet face to face with him. I'm worried i might hurt him by asking dumb question. I think he's friends put him on blind dates and he date women who have nothing in common with him. These woman only think of him as a platonic friend. I struggled with issues of "What if..." CP is NOT a disease but a condition and the CP itself doesn't progress like a disease does. Because cerebral palsy ranges in severity and diagnosis--depending on the most prominent features exhibited--can vary as well, no two CP cases are exactly alike. I am married to a man with CP--Athetoid Spastic--pretty severe. I had so much good advice for you and am quite frustrated that the message got lost..I would be willing to help you in your query. Take a look at Thanks Irish Gypsy, Thanks for your advice. I am not claiming to have all the answers but I know what my husband and I worked thru to make our relationship work. It sounds as though you are really in deep thought about all of this...