This may present itself as a game, but with a little extra planning to ask a date out in advance, I’ll bet you’ll hear a lot more “yes’s” and feel like women are a lot less hard to get.We all know there is often a power struggle in the game of love.It really is like a basketball game; the ball bounces from your court to her court at different times, especially at the beginning when you are learning about one another.
Some of these women will be both career women and single moms, at which they will truly be challenged with time to date you.
Now, Guys, I want to be clear, this does not mean that we don’t want to spend time with you, but that we really don’t have it to give you right now. You will know quickly which woman is playing and which is truly busy, but is also into you.
The latter will make an effort to see you as soon as she can. I am a rules girl and I choose not to accept a date the night of and, quite frankly, often not past Thursday morning for a weekend date.
And, yes, we can choose to perceive it as an excuse; but I can tell you firsthand, I have been accused of playing hard to get or intentionally not being available when, in fact, I have been working 15-hour days.
If I am speaking at an event or filming on set for 12 hours straight, I am not playing hard to get, but may not even have my phone to call or text you back, and I certainly don’t have time to see you for dinner that night. More and more women are uber focused on their careers.
They are traveling for work and some are working more than one job to stay afloat.Divorce rates are higher than ever, so it is likely you are also meeting single moms who are responsible for their children first.Now, there are always exceptions and last minute fun events or basketball tickets that come up, but we are focusing here on the beginning stages of dating, so humor me.My girlfriends and I have talked this topic to death and we have all said “no” to last minute dates and, of course, been accused of playing hard to get for it.Believe me, it is not always easy and I have had to have serious self-control to pass up a date with that sexy man who I had the hots for on the other end of the phone. Guys, women want to be courted and made to feel special.They don’t want to feel like a last minute plan or an afterthought.