For most people, the anxiety over not telling your partner you have herpes is worse than the telling itself.
On the other hand, by telling your partner you have herpes and allowing them to enter into the relationship with full knowledge of your infection, you reduce the likelihood of them becoming infected with herpes.
This is because, when you have an outbreak, you can discuss it with your partner instead of making excuses for why you can’t have sex.
Many people do not feel comfortable talking about sexuality and sexual health issues.
This pamphlet will explore ways of feeling more confident in discussing herpes in the context of a sexual relationship.
Most people find that their partners are both supportive and understanding.
It is a common assumption to initially think that a person may base their judgement of you on the fact you have genital herpes. People fear the possibility of rejection but the reality of this is that it rarely happens.
Because fear of rejection is a concern, it leads some to question why they should risk talking about herpes. Instead they abstain during herpes outbreaks, practice safe sex at other times, and hope for the best.
This strategy may have more disadvantages than advantages.
First of all, you spend a lot of time and energy worrying that your partner is going to get herpes.
It’s much harder to tell someone if they just found out they’re infected with herpes.
Inaccurate and stigmatising articles and advertising have contributed to many of us having a lot of negative beliefs related to herpes that make it difficult to convince ourselves that others would want to be with us.
It’s important to recognise these beliefs and consciously change them.
Accepting the fact that you have herpes and are still the same person you were before will make it easier to have a fulfilling relationship.