For your relationship to work, he must demonstrate that he’s serious about the divorce by filing the necessary papers, separating finances and property, and moving forward with the divorce process.
If he has children, it is likely best to put off meeting them.
If you meet them too soon, it can upset the ex, confuse the children during a difficult time in their lives, and can even disrupt any custody evaluations.
Tell him you want to meet his children, but that you’d prefer to wait until the dust settles.
Another important boundary to maintain is to keep your home life separate from his.
Because he’s getting divorced, he’s still legally, financially and emotionally completing his relationship with his ex.
Moving in with him over-involves you in his life and makes it impossible to set healthy boundaries.When it comes to your boyfriend’s divorce, he may be tempted to talk about it and you may be tempted to ask questions or even offer advice.Because mental health professionals consider divorce one of life's most stressful events, dating a man who’s in the midst of divorcing can be extremely challenging.During a divorce, a man must face a host of issues: dealing with his ex, taking care of any children, court appearances, the costs of divorce, not to mention his own grieving process.To keep the relationship -- and yourself -- healthy, it’s important to set boundaries when dating a man going through divorce.Just because a man has separated from his wife doesn’t mean he’s getting divorced.