Yeah, we may admit we want sex Imagine a normal guy in a dating situation.
No one around me really talks about sex or anything sexual, at least not when we’re sober. I think many of us dudes are not comfortable admitting that we are sexual.
In my experiences, when a woman doesn’t feel sexual after three dates with a man, both her body and mind shut off. But understand that as a dating single man you can be completely romantic AND completely asexual. Once you start addressing sexual, then you can start undressing.
I mean, c’mon, she gave him three solid chances to turn her on.
Dear All The Single Ladies, you know how sometimes you're seeing a guy, and he's all about it, and it's going really well, and then all of a sudden he apparates off the face of the earth without a word and you're like, "What the sh*t?
A couple of days later, he texts her and she texts him back. He took the initiative, he made her laugh, he treated her to dinner and other nice things, he checked up on her, and so on. No, it’s not that he didn’t have intercourse with her.
He calls her that night, they chat, he jokes, she laughs, and he asks her out on a date. The next week they meet again and they have a better time. Suddenly she doesn’t reply to his texts, she doesn’t pick up his phone calls, and she’s nowhere to be found. Didn’t he do everything a good man should in pursuit of a woman? And, according to a very insightful dating blog out there, just calling her should be more than enough. It’s not just sex but the sexual, the imagination, the anticipation, the tension and the suspense.
They meet yet again and have an amazing mind-blowing third date. Sexual is desire, in its most raw, psychological and biological form. A cocky, suggestive remark like, “Well, you just might charm me into asking you out for a second date.” A hearty laugh together.Two adults can have sex, but they may not have sexual, because there may be no desire. Offering your arm as you walk her to her car or train stop.It can be a one-off, with unbearable apathy toward each other afterward. Inviting her over to a simple but sweet home-cooked meal, complete with dessert and wine. Sex alone can be cold, impersonal, and objectifying.Pulling her closely and tightly to yourself all of a sudden and enjoying the intimate silence. We men forget two game-changing things: 1) women are just as sexual as we are and 2) we men are supposed to be sexual, too. However, sexual is a progression, like a jazz tune.It goes up and down, it’s simple and then it’s complex, it pushes and pulls.Sexual is a double helix between the mind and the body, because they’re so inter-connected. You can open doors, pull chairs, get the checks, cook dinners, and call her as often as modernly possible.