Prepare what you are going to say and keep to the facts.
For example, your ex doesn’t need to hear how you adore the man you are dating or how your new guy has a terrific job.
Your fear of having the conversation is probably worse than having the actual conversation, says Schramm.
If you have a friendly relationship, call him up and ask that you sit down together to talk.
If you have a difficult relationship with your ex, revealing that you are dating may cause issues.
“Face to face interaction has the most potential for conflict,” says Ron L.
“Because of the children you must stretch and force yourself beyond your normal comfort zone,” says Michele Germaine, a licensed social worker and marriage family therapist, and cited on Parent
This conversation probably won’t be easy for either of you.
It is better that he hears from you that you are dating, rather than from a mutual friend or your children.
“We put off bringing up a tough subject because we are waiting for the perfect opportunity,” says J. Schramm, who teaches communication at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business, and cited on the Harvard Business Review blog.
You’re divorced but you've started dating, because you’ve decided to open yourself up to the possibility of love.
You want to inform your ex, since you and he share the responsibility of raising your children together.