Kristen Lamb We’ve talked about reasons to give on-line dating a try and we also chatted about ways to spot predators, so today? How do we write a profile guaranteed to pique interest?Tip #1—Be Brief It’s a profile, not an essay contest.Just because the dating site gives you 3,000 words to describe yourself, doesn’t mean you should use them ALL.
Few things are sexier than a woman who smiles all the time. I love Renaissance festivals and want a man who can be trusted with a sword. Currently, I’m training to summit Kilimanjaro next year. Instead, try: I’m and avid mountain climber and my ideal match would love to embrace the sport with me. Believe it or not, there are people out there who love fluffy people.
Tip #4—Be Interesting Everyone likes a walk on the beach. I could even see us training to summit Kilimanjaro together. Eventually, you’ll have to meet a potential partner in person and it just ticks people off to be lied to. There are men who don’t mind big women, and women who don’t mind guys with meat. If you don’t have Photo Shoppe, I recommend Pic Monkey. We all have that one picture that’s awesome but the light was terrible, or the background was cluttered, or the angle gave us a turkey neck we really don’t have. of WANA International and the founder of the social site for creatives, WANATribe.
When you reach beyond being interesting to being interested, you paint a picture where the potential mate can see herself…next to you. For years I was overly conscious of my big thighs, only to find out later that a lot of men loved the very thing I was trying to hide. Feel free to touch it up and put your best forward. Just be mindful that touching-up and completely-and-utterly-altering are two different things.
Looking for a woman who appreciates a man who pays attention to her. And those reading are like, “Where the hell has this dude been finding dates? ” We all want someone who is honest and faithful and who appreciates attention. If you love to randomly shout out, “NOoooooooone expects the Spanish Inquisition!
When you call attention to those obvious areas, this is a huge red flag that you are hurting and can make others skittish to approach. Most profiles are full of this fluff, so people either move on or default to the best-looking photos. In fact, I am guaranteed to quote every Monty Python movie. Unless you happen to live on the coast, one image is a vacation activity. ” then you want someone who not only gets you but who also appreciates you.
And thing is, you might not be hurting but those key phrases can make you seem emotionally damaged. A better approach is to list qualities that have more to do with everyday life. Tip #5—Be Less Interest and More Interested No one likes a braggart, so writing profiles can be tricky.Instead, try phrases like: Looking for a woman who loves to laugh. Remember, if you’re looking for a mate, 50 weeks of the year won’t be while on vacation. Yes, we want to talk about ourselves, but we have to also watch that we aren’t writing a monument to our own awesomeness. Also, make it about the other person you have yet to meet. I’m an avid mountain climber and I’ve climbed most of the mountains in the world. This guy’s going to get a cramp from patting himself on the back.Females tend to break this rule more than men, namely because most of us gals never met a word we didn’t LOVE. A guy is probably more interested in your pictures anyway, simply because men are wired to be more visually oriented. Focus on posting good pictures instead of writing an on-line memoir. Most of us have been lied to, stomped on, cheated, or in some way used or abused.If your profile just reminds him of that college lit class he barely passed? Don’t tell every last detail about you, your life, wants, and dreams or what will you guys have to talk about on an actual date? Unless you’ve been living in a cave and never been on a date, you’ve probably been hurt. It’s fine to get back on the horse when you’re thrown, but keep those emotions out of the profile.Don’t request the obvious, or it becomes obvious you aren’t in a good place to be dating.I want a man who is faithful and honest and who I can trust to tell the truth. When we are looking for a mate, we ALL want those things. This is akin to writing: Looking to date a woman with only ONE head, please.