Men here are paranoid that anyone will discover their attraction to other men. They sometimes will act overly-masculine, aggressive and violent in an attempt to deflect suspicion.
There are many unhappily married Bisexual men at this Level of Gay Comfort that secretly masturbate to Gay porn instead of meeting other men.
However, you don’t want to advertise that it’s for sale or even give strangers the impression that it may possibly be on the market at all.
On top of that, there may be great potential buyers out there but you dare not randomly inquire their interest in buying a car nor do they themselves dare give the impression that they are interested in buying a car for fear of being Outed as a car purchaser. Dating is hard for everyone but if guys like ourselves were more open about our sexuality, we’d attract more people who were also attracted to men, even if for just one night.
Example: is something I came up with to distinguish various types of masculine discreet Gay men.
How “comfortable” a man is in doing certain things to meet other guys determines his level of comfort in being a Gay/Bisexual man of color.
I’d say that I’ve been at Level Eight in my Gayness since 2009, which means that I shot from level 3 to 8 in just two years.
Let’s begin at the beginning: This is the base level.
Many discreet masculine men start off here but only a small percentage stays here their whole lives.
At this level, there is NO level of comfort with being Gay.
It is also one of the most debasing and vulgar ways to meet them.