Exposing a man to continual visual stimulation is like hanging a noose around the neck of his spiritual life! Time after time after time after time I hear it: And on and on and on and on and on… It doesn’t mean they aren’t amazing in a lot of other areas or wouldn’t be good husband material. If dating hinders your relationship with God, why would you ever date… If you’re focusing on Jesus in this season, who are you focusing on during all the other seasons?” I don’t know about you, but I’m spotting some major continuity problems between steps 2 and 3, not to mention 3 and 4. Why don’t all the men just grow up, and then we can start having some teaching for adults. this topic is like the Holy Grail of single women conversation. I think guys SHOULD make the first move, but what should or shouldn’t happen really isn’t going to matter to you when you’re browsing Christian Mingle on your 36th birthday. If most of the Christian guys you’re interested in had it fully together, we probably wouldn’t be having this conversation. It simply means they are lacking in awareness, confidence, or most commonly, know-what-they-want-edness. I’m not saying you should or shouldn’t pursue a guy. If you get married at age 25, you’ll spend at least two thirds of your life in a relationship.
If you want to truly understand how ridiculous this notion is, Real talk: modesty is great, and sexually-explicit Western culture does provide a challenging climate for men, but let’s not pander to the irresponsible and frankly ridiculous idea that it’s a woman’s responsibility to manage a man’s sex drive. If my experience serves me correctly, however, your memory of that command will probably be inversely proportional to the hotness of your potential date. This idea is primarily motivated by fear of voracious little sex drives running about, and like anything motivated by fear, it jumbles everything into a needless mess.
This is one of those oft-quoted home-group rules for dating. Allow me to depict one’s commitment level in a healthy marriage: Now, allow me to depict one’s emotions while getting to know another human being: The dating process is your chance to experience the ups and downs of a real relationship without the pressure of flat-lining.
“You shouldn’t start dating until you’re sure marriage is on the table.” “Could you see yourself marrying him? Placing marriage-esque commitment expectations on yourself or your date will just set you both up for an ER’s worth of emotional damage.
We bring our love for out-of-context scripture and applied-only-when-convenient principles into the mix, making for an entirely unique brand of utter ridiculousness. You don’t have to think, because we’re here to do it for you.
Since you’re reading this on the internet, it’s probably true and should be shared repeatedly on your Facebook wall (actually you really should go ahead and share this right now… Identifying myth from fact can be difficult, and that’s why we’ve gone ahead and done all the heavy lifting for you.
We’ve spent over 10 minutes tirelessly combing the limits of the interwebs – dissecting every nook and cranny, examining every loophole, instigating mass pandemonium – and ultimately, we’ve brought you back a list of 10 ridiculous Christian myths about dating that your ignorant friends probably believe. These are real quotes from real published articles, by the way. “The level of [men’s] lust is directly related to how much of our bodies is available to lust after. By this theory, the only way to really master the art of dating is to not do it.This is by far the weakest excuse for a cop-out I’ve ever heard, and yet it somehow manages to repeatedly eek its way out of the mouths of otherwise-brilliant pastors, authors, bloggers, and never-at-all-brilliant Twitter philosophers. The less we advertise, the less opportunity we give them to covet our bodies.” “When a guy gets ‘intoxicated,’ his body can’t help but react… “I’m not dating right now, so I can focus more on Jesus.” “We’re breaking up ’cause we feel like we need to just pursue God right now.” “I’m really attracted to her, and we have a lot of fun together, but I think I should just be focusing on my relationship with God right now.” As we all know, pursuing Jesus means discontinuing everything else in life. Unless a monastic lifestyle is your plan (more power to you), this sentiment doesn’t make any sense.For those unfamiliar with the subject, dating is a relatively simple procedure that must always be hopelessly complicated for any Christian daring to try it out.If you’re feeling lucky, try Googling “christian dating advice.” We’ll see you next week… Christians aren’t the only ones obsessed with the dating scene.If you search “rules for dating,” you may notice the unchurched are just as guideline-happy as the rest of us.It seems that dating might be universally confusing. What makes Christian dating so hopelessly complicated is the Christians themselves.