You don’t address racial dynamics much on your blog, but I have a question for you: I’m a very attractive, westernized Asian female in my early 30’s.Fun-loving, outgoing and attract all kinds of men easily.To be blunt, I’m convinced most Asian women seek out white men because a) they are generally seen as more desirable catches by society b) they want their children to have as many advantages as possible in life – infusing some “European” blood in the mix will increase the odds that they will have more physiological advantages.
But why do I feel so defeated in accepting this idea?
It’s as if the gravitation pull of the natural dynamics of interracial dating is just too strong for my feeble attempts to want the world to be different than what it actually is.
I am simplifying things here, but this is the gist of my issues.
I’m sure there is a non white guy out there who could also be devoted to me, but, hey, the clock is ticking and I don’t have forever to wait for the perfect guy.
Please Evan, give me the blunt truth on where my blind spots are.“What’s wrong with Jewish men?! I’m just pointing out that the phenomenon is real and trying to draw logical conclusions from the statistics.
They’re screwing up an entire generation of our religion. And they refuse to settle down with nice Jewish girls. To parallel this to your situation, Lily: you want to stay within your race. I had a Chinese client in Los Angeles last year and an Indian woman in New Jersey who felt the same way.
As a Jewish man, what do you think is wrong with Jewish men? But they didn’t just want an “Asian” or “Indian” husband; they wanted a first generation-American whose parents were from the same exact caste/region as her parents.
I suppose it’s my own twisted way of trying to contribute to a more just world. I kinda feel guilty about the fact that I’m not attracted to Asian men. And so, I opt for “other.” Thus, in the end, I still haven’t escaped being prejudiced in some way.
A truly open minded person wouldn’t discriminate the way I would.