If you’re an INTJ personality type like me, you’ve always struggled to find a partner who understands you.
Many INTJs eschew short-term flings and hit the brakes at the first sign of infatuation — because we’re already wondering if it will work long-term.
When we do find that special person, we can still be an enigma.
We will be a dedicated partner who supports you in achieving your goals. From a young age, most INTJs have a hard time understanding when someone doesn’t really mean what they say.
But we can also seem distant, quick to judge, and at times, clueless about others’ feelings. As adults, this translates to us being wary of people who don’t keep their word or follow through on plans. Any dishonesty in a system means results cannot be predicted or trusted.
A relationship is a system and we need to be able to project a strong chance of long-term happiness. We let very few people into our “inner circle,” and when we do, we have high expectations.
A single let-down can leave scars.) Loyalty doesn’t mean just fidelity. Our partner Quistic offers a course for INTJs looking to achieve their goals.
We have a sense of personal dedication to our partner, and we expect to receive that in return. “Best Practices for Leveraging INTJ Strengths (and How to Be a Likable INTJ)” is a four-part webinar from career coach Penelope Trunk.
We want a partner who believes in our work, our goals, and our abilities. Includes access to a private Facebook group with nearly 200 success-oriented people of your type. Andre Solo is an author, philosopher and professional adventurer.
We believe competence and loyalty go hand in hand; we do not trust a partner who simply cheers for us if we cannot also count on their counsel and good judgment. This is so simple that I think some partners are scared of it. We’ve all dealt with someone who says they want you to speak your mind, then blows up when you do. To an INTJ, understanding and resolving a problem is much more important than avoiding confrontation. Since 2012 he has traveled across the Americas with nothing but a bicycle.
When we feel that you provide this, there will be no question of our loyalty in return. We view all problems as inherently solvable, including problems like lack of wealth, fame, or career success. We view confrontation-avoidance as weak, and even deceptive. Most people argue to make a point, express anger or get their way. We are perpetually kicking the tires on what we think we know. We love being proven wrong if it means we learn something new. If that’s not possible, here are suggestions: INTJs, what else should our partners know, and how many of these items ring true? He believes that a journey is a powerful way to discover your purpose in life, and that ordinary people can do extraordinary things.