Having an encouraging person on the other end is invaluable. (Am I just a set of naked pixels for you to put your sex feelings into? Since you're clearly not near your partner, a little keepsake for the lonely times is nice.If my partner weren't reassuring me I was hot, it would just make me feel weird. ) It's scary to be that vulnerable, so make sure you appreciate your partner out loud. But before you take a screenshot, make sure your boundaries are clear.
It helps if you get excited by showing off your own body, and are eager to stare longingly at the bod of your person of choice. Remember, you're going to be moving your laptop around to get a better angle of your genitals, so I wouldn't worry too much about keeping a straight face.
Lots of advice about Skype sex will tell you that lighting and posing are very important because you want to look your best for your audience. Make sure that overhead light doesn't make you look like you're in jail. I like the way it looks, but I mostly like it for the pleasure it brings me.
I think it's more that you want to feel attractive in your own skin. It's taken me a time and a lot of work to feel that way about myself, and I'm lucky that I finally do. So even on Skype, it's considerate to follow up, especially after the first time.
(Granted, if you're really a criminal mastermind, you could crop it out, but let's call it a deterrent.) Mostly, don't be a dick. You can always opt out of including your face in the frame.
That way, if anybody else sees it, you can deny it, because it's just a bunch of faceless body parts floating around on a screen. It's widely held that men are visually stimulated and women don't know how to use their eyeballs except to look at shoes and children and housework.
Famous people pull that denying-naked-photos trick all the time. If the success of , and the subsequent Channing_Tatum_explosion (I was doing research, okay?
), is any indication, ladies like to stare at hot bodies, too.
But I recently started having semi-regular Skype sex, and realized that I hadn't felt this sexually inept since I was a terrified teenager.
I've had a wealth of sexual experience, and learned many wonderful and terrible things from many wonderful and terrible people.
I'm seeing a person who a) is a photographer and b) lives in a different country and c) is far more visual than me. I'm now relearning intimacy through a whole new medium. It's not like being right there with someone, but it also doesn't let your imagination run wild like phone sex or sending dirty emails; it's some whole new thing, with its own drawbacks and its own distinct pleasures. Skype sex is like watching porn that stars a person who (hopefully) you know for real, who's aware that you're watching them.
I'm still figuring it all out, but here are a few tips I've learned from my foray into this brave new world of e-humping. It's like porn you direct and co-star in, which is both exciting and nerve-wracking.